The key to undoing sexual shame for ourselves is to dismantle the communal commitment to externalized and internalized whorephobia and that can happen when people are educated about the world of sexuality. I would argue that sexuality education, in all forms and when done right, is an abolitionist approach to removing the shackles of sexual shame.

I decided to make this a two-part series because I also wanted to share my thoughts on the subject matter as the creator of the questionnaire. I wanted to create a complementary piece that rounded out the discussion on the topic, so this piece will be more personal in discussing my thoughts and feelings about marriage, the institution vs the commitment.

When I was conducting the research for this project, I was running into a lack of information on queer and trans perspectives on the institution of marriage. This questionnaire, created by me, is an attempt to address that gap for a more nuanced discussion of marriage. This two-part series will highlight the answers from community members (part one) and my own reflections (part two).

Admittedly, this is my first time engaging with the Solarpunk reimagination. Thus, I’m experimenting with what this framework can inform me about environmentalism and the imaginations around what is required of us, the humans, to be in better service to it. With this in mind, I utilize Solarpunk to analyze 3D printing, kink, and the environment. Taking it a step further, I also intend to include an Afrofuturistic and kink ecological perspective in this analysis.

Sooooo I was on my burner twitter account and I came across this particular comic. (It’s pretty explicit so be mindful of who you are around when viewing this image.) Now in the eyes of the original poster, this warranted a response rooted in leaving the partner and getting consumed with embarrassment because wtf is honest and effective communication. I saw this comic as a showcase of how patriarchy complicates the cultivation of sexual pleasure. Unfortunately, that nigga was not interested in that perspective so imma talk my shit right here. :)

This offering is my personal reflection regarding Zalika Ibaorimi’s teach-in (HO)LY Ontology: Black Visual Cultural Geographies of the Sexually Illicit.

Writer’s note (content warning): This article briefly mentions content on emotional abuse, sexual content, state harm, and use of the term “rape”. Photo originally comes from Afrosexology.